Love hurts: I'm afraid to love again

Hi Ladies,

So many of you have been hurt, lied to, and cheated on by someone who claimed to love you. You've constantly let your guard down and opened yourselves up to men who didn’t value your vulnerability. At times, the feelings of bitterness, brokenness, and betrayal are the results of those relationships. Giving you the impression that love hurts and making you afraid to love again. Trust me, I know how you feel! But God doesn't want His daughters feeling this way. Inner healing is necessary. In order for it to take place your perspective has to change, which means that you have to understand God’s definition of love.

The greek word for God’s love is agape . Agape love is the unconditional and unmerited love that God has for His children. It is the highest form of love. God loved you so much that He sacrificed His only begotten son for you (John 3:16), while knowing all of the mistakes that you would ever make. And nothing you can do or say will make Him stop loving you (Romans 8:31-39).

Note: When you know what love is, it's easier to discern what love isn’t.

Let’s go deeper:

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

If these standards aren't being upheld in the relationship then Agape love is not present. Perhaps it's not love after all? Or maybe it's just another form of love? Eros to be exact! Eros is a greek word used to express sexual or physical attraction. Oftentimes, women confuse Agape love with Eros love because their vision is cloudy. Engaging in sexual activities before marriage can cloud your judgement and make you more prone to getting hurt. Also, you’re allowing yourself to be vulnerable in the wrong areas and intertwining your soul with a man that’s not your husband. Furthermore, if cheating is present you will find yourself struggling to leave the relationship because you’re so attached. Imagine how much easier it would be to get over someone if you didn’t give your body to them.Don’t allow yourself to be dishonored. You have to know when it’s time to leave a relationship. If God isn’t in it, then you shouldn't be in it. Sis, you’re a daughter of the KING! Don’t sell yourself short!

Note: God’s love doesn’t hurt, it heals!

Now that you have more insight about what real love is, it's time to let the hurt go! Allow God to heal the brokenness and bitterness that you've been carrying for so long. Don’t hinder yourself from receiving the man that God has for you. Surrender! Learn to let love in and love again!

Love and Blessings,

Alexis Brianna

XOXO